There are few things more disheartening than hitting a ceiling or falling into the SAME pit in your business…. when you KNOW you are meant for so much more. It’s the agony of seeing everyone else enjoying the life / business / income / travel you KNOW you are meant for, but not being able to truly BREAK INTO that world. At least not for long. Not for keeps. Not for you.
Because you DO get tastes and glimpses of this world, right?
You have AMAZING months that show you what’s possible for you. Unfortunately, these months may often times be followed by disappointing or devastating months that seem to come along and taunt you, “Who Did You Think You Were Exactly?”
This can leave you feeling like your highest mountaintop moments were a “fluke,” but your valleys were more “you.” If this article makes you feel like someone has peaked behind the curtain of your inner most thoughts, keep reading. I want to show you three things you do immediately.
1. EXAMINE YOUR GOALS.
I know this is super cliche, but I didn’t want to leave it off. Examine your goals. Do you know — have you put WORDS to — what “flying” really means for you? Are your goals clear and concise? Do you KNOW what you’re aiming for, exactly?
2. EXAMINE YOUR ACTIONS.
This is an infinitely more critical “thing” to examine: what you DO. Do your actions really align with your goals? Are your actions as BIG as your goals? If I saw what you did every day, would it be obvious to me, that you were headed for huge success?
Not based on your intentions,
or on how huge your goals are,
or on how well networked you are,
or on how organized you are…
but based on what I saw you do every day????
In other words, would your imminent — and huge — success be obvious to an onlooker? Because you simply can’t create extraordinary success with average effort. Period.
I love seeing women entrepreneurs whose actions make their future national and international success absolutely obvious! Ramona Rice of SpaPreneur.com, Shelley Smith of Premier Rapport, Melanie McGhee of Acceptance and Integration Training, and Debbie Adams of PeopleCan Training come to mind.
It’s what you DO.
It’s what YOU do.
It’s WHAT you do.
3. EXAMINE YOUR BELIEFS
Even more important than your actions is what you BELIEVE to be true. I have battled, beaten and replaced a ton of limiting beliefs about success and money. These beliefs held me back, for years, because you will never outperform what you think is possible for you. And you will not reach levels of success you feel aren’t “safe” or “aligned” for you to reach.
So, what you believe about success matters. Let me go down an incomplete list of core beliefs I had about money and success:
- Money isn’t important. It’s the people that really matter.
- Rich people are filthy rich… and are probably selfish and greedy.
- You have to work long and hard for money. After all, money doesn’t grow on trees.
- Would you rather have a parent’s PRESENCE (time) or PRESENTS ($$)? (Because you can’t have both.)
- Couples fight most over money.
- It’s lonely at the top.
I had to completely re-write my internal dialogue and belief system about success. It was holding me back in so many practical ways. When my belief was that I could either be available for my kids or make a bunch of money, of course I’d be there for my kids. If I believed — as I did –that having enough money was okay, but having a lot of money would cause stress and strain… it’s no wonder I’d reign myself in (or even self-sabotage) at a certain point to keep myself “safe.”
Bottom line: Your beliefs will determine your actions. And your actions will either line up with your goals, or not. So, if you’re finding yourself hitting a “glass ceiling”– even when you’re the boss — these three steps will help you break through… for good.